Why do women very rarely reply to men on dating websites?

I have previously been involved in marketing dating websites and these days I am a member of a couple, including some free ones. I thought I would repeat an experiment that I did a few years ago.

Why do women very rarely reply to men on dating websites?

I have had a real profile of my own for over a year, but only recently put real effort into writing a profile that I would say is as good as I can do. A year ago I had some success talking to and meeting people and I felt it was probably due to people not wanting to be alone over Christmas. The same is true this year, I have had quite a few emails and dated a couple of people. Let's be clear I only spend a couple of hours a week emailing people and using individual emails, not copy and paste, people can spot that a mile off, especially when it's a cheesy poem or chat-up line.

Today I did the screenshots and 19 people want to 'meet me', well 19 people have not emailed me and my profile states that I do not have the 'meet me' feature and that they should message me. It turns out that the mobile app only shows my picture and location for this feature. To see my note about messaging you have to click the picture and scroll way down the page before you see it. How many people do that, we may never know!

So on Sunday 27th November 2016 I set up Jennifer's dating profile. For it to be a fair test I had to copy a decent picture from another site, I made her a professional woman, a marketing manager in her 50's (I am 58) and put her interests as theatre, walking fine dining. I did not make her sound desperate at all. Here's Jennifer -

Interests

• Theatre
• Fine dining
• Classical music

About Jennifer

Love to go to the theatre but would love to go with a special friend, also love cinema and walks

First Date

Coffee or wine bar

I made little effort on purpose, So how did Jennifer fair? 

Well after about 28 hours I had a look.

She has had 23 emails, the first arrived withing a minute of writing her profile, before I had even found her picture. Over 99 people have clicked 'meet me',and 108 have viewed her profile since I last loaded her page.

This is her inbox, It is only fair to allow these guys their anonymity. About now Jennifer will be panicking and deleting emails like mad and will be glad the POF.com never send more than 8 email a day. Now no woman is going to have time to read that number of email messages, she is just going to cherry pic someone that peeks her interest, or more likely do her own search and ignore this completely.

The last time I did this test was on a well know free adult site, I picked a gorgeous 50 year old woman and tried her profile in a few cities. withing a week she had over 400 emails and I had to turn it off, all the emails where cut and pasted one liners.







So what was in these mystery messages, let's  have a peek.
 
"The events depicted in this blog took place on POF.com in 2016. At the request of the survivors, the names have been changed. Out of respect for the dead, the rest has been told exactly as it occurred". Fargo - the Cohen Brothers.

Here are the edited exerts.

“Good evening –- and what a stunning photo...I hoped you might like to chat sometime soon and learn a little more about each other...have a lovely evening... x” - blatent cut and paste.

“hi there !! how are you ?” - followed by 6 pictures of him and his Ford Mustang taken by a friend .

“Hi Jennifer how are you” - err?

"Hello... how are you, would you like to chat?” - 3 pics of him and his mates in London, on none of them is he smiling. (POF rate this guy as a top 10 prospect!)

“Hello I'd just like to say that you have a lovely profile and I would love to hear from you” - yeah I’ll be writing to him.

“great photo & profile” - another top 10 prospect, obviosuly helped by 5 pictures, one was his dog and one an Audi TT possibly his (or his bosses), in a companies reserved parking space.

“Your never 57, look more early 40s at the most. Would love the chance to get to know you.x” - with some amazing photos, 2 on exotic adventure holidays, 3 seem to contain his last girlfriend, even is she isn’t why would you leave her in?

“G'day, I'm Pommiexxx I live in xxxxx but am willing to travel to meet the right women ..You look beautiful I love your smile, I'm 52yrs old and looking for a long term relationship Ikonw you must be a busy women but if you can find time to get to know me I wont let you down..:) byeeee for now xoxox” - with a single picture. His sat on a toilet, he obviously has not mastered the selfie and has the worst hairdo I have ever seen in the 21^st century.

“Morning like your profile hope you have had a good weekend😃/xxxx” - with 4 pics in which he is acting the idiot with mates and the last one with a gorgeous blonde woman, WHY!

Hmmm. So why am I still single?